Can you see me? Can I see you?
The term intimacy is rightly used in the context of the marital relationship. That relationship is in a real way to be the peak of that term: when true oneness is experienced to a degree that cannot be experienced elsewhere.
Intimacy, however, is not exclusive to that relationship. Intimacy is a great journey to embark on and cultivate in relationships. The nature of intimacy is such that it’s not something you’ll generate with many. Intimacy is the challenge of developing a degree of seeing into others who see into you and develop a unity that way. Interaction that develops interdependence and builds an interconnection are the hallmarks of the process to intimacy. To get into the other also includes the opening of the self to allow the other to get into you and that is a journey full of danger. So many good reasons to avoid progress because of the threat of pain. Yet the reward genuinely far outweighs the cost – when we’re willing to do what it takes to make progress.
The journey of intimacy is not a theoretical one or one without precedent. Intimacy is modelled by the divine relationship played out on earth as men and women grow to learn what it is to live the life of Christ. There is never the sense that intimacy is a static position – it is something that grows as we learn and as we allow ourselves to develop those relationships and pattern it for others to see how this path to intimacy is a wonderful expression of what it is to be human.
As this develops, so there are those wonderful experiences of getting to a stage in relationships where questions turn to affirmations.
You see me. I see you.
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden