If I had a penny for every time I have been informed how we live in a microwave society looking for the quick fix, I would be rich enough to buy quite a number of microwaves.
I am sure there’s a degree of truth to it, but it’s advanced as though things were so much better yesteryear when at best things were different. Very different to the degree that we can make that critical analysis of the day and age we live in. For all that though, it is not a modern problem. Impatience has been a key factor driving technological progress – we don’t want to necessarily go through long processes to reach outcomes, we desire the outcome as soon as possible if not sooner.
That’s evident in the expectations for relationships. One slight, one hurt, one indiscretion and the barriers go up and it’s typical humanity. Anything that suggests the mere absence of genuine warmth and hospitality and there’s the conclusion this person is not ready for friendship. What we all need is a little more time. A little more intentional time for each other, a little more intentional time that allows the relationship to develop so that there’s more content and context to work from. It’s what we need for ourselves, but it’s what we struggle to give to others.
Some of us are too quick, some of us are too ponderous, sometimes we get too intense, other times we appear far too distant. Yet give us time, create the space and then experience the blessing of the relational interaction.
We just need more time for the relationship to develop.
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden