Well meaning, good intentioned people in their well meaning expression of good intentions, sometimes get things wrong. It’s particularly the case when it’s coming from well meaning good intentions that don’t start from the premise of a good relationship.
Like people feeling they have permission to talk to you about your life without the insight of the context and lacking the relational knowledge to share. So in their bid to make sure they can talk to others because they talked to you, they give you the benefit of their wisdom. The sad thing about it is that they’re no more bothered to follow up what happens afterwards other than on a cursory level. All of that makes their well meaning good intentions largely a waste of time.
That’s why I have a lot of time for people who have permission to talk into my life because they have walked with me through significant periods of it. I also have a lot of time for people who have not known me that well at all, but take the time to sensitively consider how best to convey a message to me. Sometimes that will be blunt and straightforward, sometimes it will be soft and endearing. That degree of consideration means much to me and opens up opportunities to truly make inroads to correcting whatever needs to be corrected.
It certainly beats the approach of the well meaning good intentioned few.
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden