Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. (Proverbs 28:13 NIV)
It is like a grip clamped on the heart that squeezes in and chokes any life out of it, slowly, remorselessly and effectively. The sense of embarrassment, the fear of retribution, the anxiety over a tarnished reputation, the desperate effort to maintain the face of respectability, the earnest attempt not to disappoint and let people down. All of this and more contributing to the façade of everything being alright, when underneath lurks that ‘thing’, that ‘event’, that ‘habit’, those ‘issues’, those ‘feelings’.
The culture does not promote confession. It promotes the mask. It promotes keeping the defence from others knowing. Yet that which we take so much effort to hide draws away life energy into something that imprisons and begins the slow, remorseless, choking of the heart. As long as it’s hidden, it is never resolved. As long as it’s hidden, it can go on eating away in us.
So there is good advice to deal with it. Confess it – expose it for what it is. In the light of day seeing it for what it is can remove the grip it has over you. It might be tough and there will be implications, but compared to the internal damage it was causing, this act relieves over time and allows room for restorative work.
That restoration work, however, is based on a pledge to not just confess but get rid of it. To expose it to the light of the Lord is to submit it to a greater power that can eradicate it. To cooperate with that power is important, but understandably it takes time. The grip of that issue may require more than an initial confession. Loosening the grip in order for the ridding of it can take time, but the desire to be free assists the development of the getting rid of whatever it was that was threatening to kill the heart.
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden