Why So Passive?

“What do you want to do?”
“I don’t know, whatever you want.”

“I think we should get rid of those and then get these.”
“Sure thing, whatever you want to do.”

“We want to have this person in place.”
“Well at the end of the day, it’s up to you. I will abide by the decision you make.”

Whether in one to one relationships or engaging with large groups, organisations and institutions, there is something about being passive that at first may appear helpful and supportive. On closer inspection and over time it becomes abundantly evident that being passive is a nuisance. Worse still, being passive robs others of the value you bring to any conversation,activity or mission.

Not to say being passive is completely awful, but in the bigger picture is that being passive often fails in positively changing the world, changing your world.

I recognise there’s quite a lot I have been passive about, personally and beyond. My experience has been that it’s rather crippling to just let things happen without voicing my view or acting on my convictions. Where it may appear to have worked underneath it’s only reinforced dangerously negative views of myself and others.

That’s not to point to the arrogant, self-serving types that want it their way or no way. It is to say at some point following Jesus is something we acknowledge is not about being passive, even as He wasn’t.

For His Name’s Sake
Shalom
C. L. J. Dryden

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One thought on “Why So Passive?”

  1. totally agree. as a person who was raised to think being “agreeable” and “compromising” were important values, I learned over time that it only frustrates you and whoever you interact with. The latter for the reasons you mentioned above, but also you because, all of us have opinions and preferences. There’s nothing positive or ideal about constantly quelling your own for the sake of being passive…in fact, it’ll probably just build up inside until you become completely disagreeable instead to make up for all the time you lost.
    interesting perspective, I enjoyed!

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