I am a big fan of conversations.
That hasn’t always been the case. For years I preferred guided monologues. By which I mean I would ask someone a question which would trigger them going off on one about something or other. I would then give other prompts and they would carry on their spiel. I was enabling them to express themselves in a way that they wouldn’t usually and for which they on the most part would be hugely appreciative as it showed someone taking a big interest in them.
That, however, is not a conversation. What I knew at the time and realised to a greater degree later, when the other person divulges the nature of their heart and the nature of your heart remains secret that’s not a proper conversation.
God taught me over the years how conversations really work. IT truly was a two way deal requiring a sensitivity and dance with each other. Knowing who would be saying what at what time and the sharing between the two benefiting the two. I would certainly benefit by sharing my heart’s issues with Him even as He shared His heart with me on issues.
The challenge was to have a similar approach to engaging with others. That is certainly a challenge when you engage with people who either want to be the centre of attention and so don’t have the time for the other side, or for people who are not used to being challenged to share of themselves in that way. The real challenge is to maintain a commitment to sharing yourself even when the other person isn’t that way inclined. The understandable preference is to clam up at the lack of people opening up. There is no point carrying on with someone completely resistant to openings, but it’s not about giving up so quickly.
Growing in learning the joys of conversation is a marvellous journey to undertake. So much to share and know!
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden